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Gilka

When Gilka was younger, she says all she thought about was partying and going out with her friends like many teenagers do. But when she had her son at the age of 15, her life transformed. She believes her son helped her grow up. “I want my son to have the best mother, something I never had,” she says.

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When I was younger, all I thought about was partying, going out with my friends, everything teenagers do. The arguments with my mother, leaving my house, her calling the cops on me every time I used to leave. I didn’t care about nothing. Nobody was important to me. But then, everything changed. There were doctors all around me. Not one doctor, but like 5. They were trying to encourage me to push. “Gilka, I know you can do it. Push. Push.” I was so scared. I was annoyed by everything and everyone. I was upset. I was mad at myself because I didn’t want to have kids. I was only 15 years old and giving birth to a baby, 9 pounds and 14 ounces. I heard his first cry. I was so happy after I had him in my arms for the first time I knew my life was going to change, and that I needed to grow up for him.

I know I was young, but as time passes by, I realized I was changing. I was a new girl. Even though I was young and didn’t care about anybody before, I feel like my son changed me for good. It helped me grow up. I don’t know where I would be today I want my son to have the best mother, something I never had.