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Dashira

Dashira was 15-years-old when she began a relationship she says took over her life. She dropped out of school at the age of 16, and when she became pregnant at 17, she felt like her life was over. Even though Dashira was overwhelmed, she felt like she couldn’t give up her son. She’s now planning on going to college and majoring in business management and culinary arts. “I’m so excited for what’s to come in my life,” she says.

Video Transcript

I was 15 years old when I started being intimate with a stranger. At 16, I ended up dropping out of school. I didn’t think about myself, or the people around me. That stranger was now my boyfriend. All I wanted was him, no one else. I thought, “I’ll just get my GED and do something later.” But after a year, I was still at home, doing nothing. I was on birth control until we broke up. So I thought I didn’t need to be on birth control anymore. We started dating again, after two months.

Not long after my 17th birthday, I had bad cramps at night. My mom took me to the doctors, and yup, I thought my life was over. There was no way I could afford a baby. I didn’t have a job, and didn’t go to school. But there was no way I was going to give up my baby, not to abortion, and definitely not to adoption. I would cry all the time, and got a cold every other week. I was irritated with everything, and I didn’t want my relationship with the baby’s father anymore, so I broke up with him.

It’s August. My son’s due date is October 24th. He’s not even here yet, and he’s already made me a better woman. Before, I would never talk to about what was really going on in my life. I didn’t want any kind of help. I almost gave up. But if you ask me, “where are you now?” I will say, “I’m getting my GED at The Care Center.” I’m planning on going to college and majoring in business management, and culinary arts. I’m so excited for what’s to come in my life. My future is still being written.