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December, 2012

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January, 2013

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Dying in Character

Memoirs on the End of Life

How writers approaching death seek to affirm the values that have guided their lives

In the past twenty years, an increasing number of authors have written memoirs focusing on the last stage of their lives: Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, for example, in The Wheel of Life, Harold Brodkey in This Wild Darkness, Edward Said in Out of Place, and Tony Judt in The Memory Chalet. In these and other end-of-life memoirs, writers not only confront their own mortality but in most cases struggle to “die in character”—that is, to affirm the values, beliefs, and goals that have characterized their lives.

Examining the works cited above, as well as memoirs by Mitch Albom, Roland Barthes, Jean-Dominique Bauby, Art Buchwald, Randy Pausch, David Rieff, Philip Roth, and Morrie Schwartz, Jeffrey Berman’s analysis of this growing genre yields some surprising insights. While the authors have much to say about the loneliness and pain of dying, many also convey joy, fulfillment, and gratitude. Harold Brodkey is willing to die as long as his writings survive. Art Buchwald and Randy Pausch both use the word fun to describe their dying experiences. Dying was not fun for Morrie Schwartz and Tony Judt, but they reveal courage, satisfaction, and fearlessness during the final stage of their lives, when they are nearly paralyzed by their illnesses.

It is hard to imagine that these writers could feel so upbeat in their situations, but their memoirs are authentically affirmative. They see death coming, yet they remain stalwart and focused on their writing. Berman concludes that the contemporary end-of-life memoir can thus be understood as a new form of death ritual, “a secular example of the long tradition of ars moriendi, the art of dying.”

"Dying in Character is a fine book, and Berman is one insightful, intelligent critic. I applaud him for his courage in tackling the sensitive subject of death and dying."—James Brown, author of The Los Angeles Diaries and This River

"Condemn the farewell letter as a narcissistic attempt at immortality or the final act of a control freak if you wish, but it offers benefits to both the dying and the bereaved. . . . As readers, Mr. Berman says, we learn from these terminal accounts how 'other people have coped' in a situation that 'we will all confront.' And that can't be a bad thing in an aging society."—The Globe and Mail

"[Berman] has found an approach that balances personal experience and disclosure with scholarly discipline and compassionate attention, creating an engaging tone. . . . Berman’s sharp, compelling study of books that squarely face the true experience of imminent death is an important contribution to the literature of the end of life."—Boston Globe

"Author of numerous previous titles, Berman has put together another compelling, readable book. . . . Arguably, Berman's lengthy chapter on Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, renowned for her theory on the stages of grief surrounding death, is the most illuminating and exhaustive, thanks in part to her many published works,including her own end-of-life memoir (The Wheel of Life, 1997). The chapter on Philip Roth's Patrimony is thoroughand deeply psychoanalytical. Recommended."—Choice

Jeffrey Berman is Distinguished Teaching Professor of English at the University at Albany. He is the author of thirteen books, including Companionship in Grief: Love and Loss in the Memoirs of C. S. Lewis, John Bayley, Donald Hall, Joan Didion, and Calvin Trillin (University of Massachusetts Press, 2010).

Acknowledgments . . . ix

Introduction
“It Is When Faced with Death That We Turn Most Bookish” . . . 1

1. “I Never Saw or Heard the Car Coming”
My Close Call with Death . . . 20

2. “Death Itself Is a Wonderful and Positive Experience”
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and The Wheel of Life . . . 38

3. “With Autobiography There’s Always Another Text, a Countertext”
Philip Roth and Patrimony . . . 75

4. “Death Confers a Certain Beauty on One’s Hours”
Harold Brodkey and This Wild Darkness . . . 108

5. “I Have Never Been Tempted to Write about My Own Life”
Susan Sontag, David Rieff, and Swimming in a Sea of Death . . . 135

6. “Sleeplessness for Me Is a Cherished State”
Edward W. Said and Out of Place . . . 168

7. “There Is More Than One Sort of Luck”
Tony Judt and The Memory Chalet . . . 194

8. “I Never Realized Dying Could Be So Much Fun”
Art Buchwald and Too Soon to Say Goodbye . . . 209

9. “Learn How to Live, and You’ll Know How to Die”
Morrie Schwartz’s Letting Go and Mitch Albom’s Tuesdays with Morrie . . . 225

10. “I’m Dying and I’m Having Fun”
Randy Pausch and The Last Lecture . . . 240

11. “Now I Cultivate the Art of Simmering Memories”
Jean-Dominique Bauby and The Diving Bell and the Butterfly . . . 254

12. “I Live in My Suffering and That Makes Me Happy”
Roland Barthes and Mourning Diary . . . 265

Conclusion
Alive When They Died . . . 284

Works Cited . . . 299

Index . . . 313