“How do you feel about interracial dating?” The Black Student Union (BSU) posed during their Real Talk on Wednesday, April 14th in the Coolidge 19th Floor lounge. The answers kept flowing from 7 well past 9 as people engaged in a conversation very real to them.
The answers were varied amongst a mixed group of attendees making the conversation dynamic and engaging. A young man of Korean decent, described the cultural and societal affects of the intermarriage of Asian women and white men. He also mentioned that there is a large presence of domestic abuse amongst East Asian communities. According to Unicef in Korea alone 38% of married women reported to being physically abused by their husbands.
Others cited that their objection to interracial dating as a desire to preserve culture while Jessica a senior exclaimed, “Interracial dating is a conspiracy theory to annihilate the black community”.
The majority of the conversation however revolved mostly around black men dating white women. Above all other topics this evoked the most emotion.
Although most of the black women stated that they are not bothered or affected by the prevalence of black men who are college educated, or getting a college education dating white women some felt differently.
Tayla a sophomore explained, “it generally doesn’t bother me when a black man is with a white woman, what does bother me is the rational by which these men decide to date a white woman. They send forth messages either verbally or socially that they don’t want to be with a loud, black woman as if all black women are such”. This remark was well received by many of the black women in the room who citied that they had personally encountered black men who gave off the impression that they wouldn’t be with a woman of color because they are all “full of baggage, angry and jealous”.
One black young man also explained his experience with women of color in his past as “condescending with no humility” making him averse to investing in women of color.
The men who were in interracial relationships also expressed the hostility they often feel from the women in the black community just because they are dating a white woman. They explained that they had the right to be with whomever they chose and race shouldn’t be a factor.
In response a woman citied that race is a factor for the women of color because according to statistics, she stated, “black women are in a position in which black men have a limited availability. Some are in some phase of the correctional system while others are homosexual or down low, and then those that are left are not dating black women. Leaving us feeling neglected and unwanted by our own men”.
In Conclusion Widlynn a sophomore passionately explained, that she has no problems with the men in the room who are in interracial relationships her “sole issue is that 73% of interracial relationships are made up of black male white female combination, making it clear more black men date outside their race than black women”. Breaking down the numbers she explained, “Within every state in the United States, more than half of the population of African American males are incarcerated. Leaving 50% locked up, another 15% living in poverty with no viable source of income, 15% with no high school degrees or hopes of making it to college and another 15% may be on the down low, hiding their homosexuality. Thus leaving college educated women with 15% of black men who are on their level educationally and professionally”. Thus creating a great deficiency in terms of the availability of black men for black women.
Some women also explained the historical context to which their discomfort is bread. They explained that for the majority of this nation’s history black men were getting lynched for so much as looking at white woman. Now they project a sense of entitlement to disrespect black women by claiming they are not good enough for them so they date white women.
The Real Talk was a major success and for those who made the mistake of coming late they stood for the rest of the 2-hour event as the spacious lounge filled in quickly. BSU hats off to you for creating the space to talk about an issue greatly affecting and dividing our generation.
Elizabeth Asefa-Article writer