Sexual Assault Male Survivors

For men who have experienced unwanted or abusive sexual experiences in childhood or as an adult.

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Male survivors of sexual violence struggle to feel validated and heard in a society that doesn’t acknowledge that men can be victims of sexual violence.  We offer services for  survivors of all genders.

In the United States, approximately 1 in 6 boys are sexually abused before age 16. One in 12 men say that they have been raped or assaulted as an adult.

Boys and men experience many complex thoughts and feelings after being sexually assaulted. It may be difficult to admit that you have been victimized, even to yourself. You may feel like your masculinity is gone.

You are not alone if you are feeling:

  • afraid or embarrassed
  • as though the abuse was your fault
  • confused or ashamed because you got an erection or ejaculated
  • confused about your sexuality
  • angry
  • sad or lonely
  • like you want to hurt yourself or someone else
  • like you don’t care about anything
  • like you are less of a man

For some men these feelings stop them from getting help.

Support and understanding is available. We have trained sexual assault counselors available 24/7 who will listen to and support you. Our staff can also refer you to other professionals who have experience working with male survivors.

Sometimes male survivors find it easier to first tell an anonymous hotline counselor rather than a loved one. This allows the survivor to speak to someone who is impartial and trained to listen and help. Many male survivors find that talking to the hotline first makes it easier to tell friends and family later.

Self-blame

Male survivors may blame themselves for the assault, believing they were not ‘strong enough’ to “fight off” the perpetrator. Many are confused by the fact that they became physically aroused during the attack, despite the assault or abuse they endured. However, these normal physiological responses do not in any way imply that the victim ‘wanted’ or ‘liked’ the assault.

Is it normal to feel this way? 

While not every male survivor of sexual assault reacts in the same way, many reactions are quite common. Without support male survivors may experience long term emotional and physical health impacts.

What happened to you is not your fault.  Our staff will treat you with respect and understanding.